The Single Girl's Guide to Marrying a Man, His Kids, and His Ex-wife

Becoming a Stepmother with Humor and Grace

Author: Sally Bjornsen

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 9780451214195

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 239

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A compassionate and candid guide for the novice stepmother explores the realities of marrying a divorced man with children, offering helpful advice on how to deal with biological-parent loyalties, resentment, a former spouse, holiday conflicts, sex, and more, accompanied by a list of resources, publications, organizations, and Web sites that can provide additional assistance. Original.

The Single Girl's Guide to Marrying a Man, His Kids, and His Ex-Wife

Becoming A Stepmother With Humor And Grace

Author: Sally Bjornsen

Publisher: Penguin

ISBN: 1440625271

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

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A funny, honest, and empathetic resource for the novice stepmother, which includes advice on The kids: Adjusting to suspicion, resentment, and biological-parent loyalties; The ex-wife: Living calmly alongside her, whether she's a psycho or the perfect mother; The holidays: Accommodating old family traditions and developing new ones; The sex: Keeping love alive through the kids' bed-wetting and nightmares. Plus an invaluable list of resources, websites, publications, and organizations specifically for the new stepmother.

A Career Girl's Guide to Becoming a Stepmom

Expert Advice from Other Stepmoms on How to Juggle Your Job, Your Marriage, and Your New Stepkids

Author: Jacquelyn B. Fletcher

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 0061740047

Category: Self-Help

Page: 352

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You have an exciting, fulfilling job. You've fallen in love with the man of your dreams—and met his three kids! Now what? Jacquelyn B. Fletcher shows how any professional woman turned wife and instant stepmother can build on the skills she employs at work—organization, team-building, goal-setting, and planning—to succeed at home in her new role as stepmom. Drawing on the latest research, her own experiences, and those of other real-life stepmothers, Fletcher offers advice, hope, encouragement, and much-needed answers to common conundrums, including: Why don't I have control over my own schedule? What kind of relationship do I want with my stepkids? What if I want to have a baby of my own? How do we create a budget that feels fair if I make more money than my husband does? A Career Girl's Guide to Becoming a Stepmom is essential reading for the professional woman who has it all—and then suddenly has more than she expected.

Stepmonster

A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do

Author: Wednesday Martin

Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

ISBN: 9780547394312

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 336

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An honest and groundbreaking guide to understanding the complicated emotions that develop between stepmothers and children. When faced with often overwhelming challenges, what woman with stepchildren is unfamiliar with that “stepmonster” feeling? Half of all women in the United States will live with or marry a man with children. To guide women new to this role—and empower those who are struggling with it—Wednesday Martin draws upon her own experience as a stepmother. She's frank about the harrowing process of becoming a stepmother, she considers the myths and realities of being married to a man with children, and she counteracts the cultural notion that stepmothers are solely responsible for the problems that often develop. Along the way, she interviews other stepmothers and stepchildren and offers up fascinating insights from literature, anthropology, psychology, and evolutionary biology that explain the little-understood realities of this unique parent-child relationship and—in an unexpected twist—shows why the myth of the Wicked Stepmother is the single best tool for understanding who real stepmothers are and how they feel.

But I'm NOT a Wicked Stepmother!

Secrets of Successful Blended Families

Author: Kathi Lipp,Carol Boley

Publisher: NavPress

ISBN: 1624056334

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

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Most little girls grow up dreaming of being a mom, but hardly any of them dream of becoming a stepmom. Nevertheless, approximately one million new stepfamilies are created every year. It’s no secret, being a stepmother can be a living nightmare. But it can also be an enriching and rewarding experience—one that God can use to strengthen you, helping you survive and even thrive in the toughest job you never asked for. Written by two women who are stepmothers themselves—and know the difficulties of helping to raise someone else’s children—this book is filled with down-to-earth insights and advice for stepmothers from stepmothers. It also offers expert guidance from pastors and counselors on such issues as roles, expectations, realistic goals, organization, finances, holidays, vacations, relationships with stepchildren, negotiation, forgiveness, healing the past, building a strong marriage with stepchildren on the scene, dealing with in-laws and ex-spouses, sexual tensions in stepfamilies, health, depression, stress, and much more. While there is no magic formula to guarantee stepmother success, encouragement and practical wisdom are available in this much-needed resource.

No One's the Bitch

A Ten-Step Plan for the Mother and Stepmother Relationship

Author: Jennifer Newcomb Marine,Carol Marine

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

ISBN: 0762755903

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

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One of three Americans is today a stepparent, a stepchild, or a stepsibling. That means there are lots of stepmothers and ex-wives out there wrestling with resentment, jealousy, anxiety, anger, and despair over their relationship with the “other woman” in their life. That's where stepmother/ex-wife team extraordinaire Jennifer Newcomb Marine and Carol Marine step in. No One's the Bitch is their straight-talking, handholding walk through what is typically a very lonely minefield. Whether women just want to create a neutral, “business” partnership or actually, gulp, to become friends, this book shows them how to reach their goal through ten powerful steps, with chapter titles such as “Own Your Own Crap,” “Collaborate,” and “Communicate.” The authors also recount their own journey, providing ample hope and reassurance to all women struggling to keep a blended family together.

The Stepmoms' Club

How to Be a Stepmom without Losing Your Money, Your Mind, and Your Marriage

Author: Kendall Rose

Publisher: Sourcebooks, Inc.

ISBN: 1492635421

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 272

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The tips, tricks and support you need to survive stepmotherhood You've met the partner of your dreams and have gotten your happily ever after, but now you've taken on a new role: stepmom. And you have no idea what you signed up for. Or maybe you've been a stepmom for a while now, but things are getting you down. Who do you turn to for help? Where is the stepmothering support group that'll give you the advice you need? Who actually gets how hard being a stepmom can be? We do. We are the women who have chosen stepmotherhood and lived to tell the tale. This guide holds our solutions to help you: • Brave the crazy ex demands • Overcome the financial hurdles of a blended family • Be prepared for the legal battles and custody arrangements • Handle disrespectful children • Nourish your relationship • Manuever the emotional breakdowns of stepmotherhood • Build your own stepmom's club • Understand why you need your partner to have your back Written by stepmoms for stepmoms, these tips, anecdotes, and words of advance will help you find success and support within your new family. We are the Stepmoms' Club —your club —and we're here to help you.

The 312 Best Things about Being a Stepmom

(for Those Days when You Can Only Come Up with One Or Two on Your Own)

Author: Cynthia L. Copeland

Publisher: Workman Publishing

ISBN: 9780761138372

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 420

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Forget Cinderella and the hundreds of other fairy tales about wicked stepmothers. Here is the truth-- a warm, bright, positive, yet frankly honest and realistic celebration of the most challenging role any woman will face. Think of it as the joy of stepmomming, and the perfect Mother's Day gift of encouragement and support. Written and illustrated by Cynthia L. Copeland, a stepmother to three boys and author of the bestselling "Really Important Stuff My Kids Have Taught Me and other books with 585,000 copies in print, THE 317 BEST THINGS ABOUT BEING A STEPMOM is packed with humor, wisdom, empathy, quotes, and testimonials from dozens of stepmothers who have shared their experiences with the author. So, if being a stepmother seems so often to be a storm cloud, this is the silver lining. For example: "People can't figure out how old you are by the ages of your stepchildren. Or, When they hug you, you know it's genuine, not out of habit. You didn't have to agonize over whether to name your stepson after his grandfather, his rich uncle, or your favorite poet. If you ever go ahead and have kids of your own, you've had practice. And if you are already a parent: "The trip to the warehouse club is finally worth the gas money. Your step-teens will see to it that your younger kids are up on the latest cool music, video games, and cargo pants. Family counsel now has enough people for a house and a senate. And, "With so many more participants, there's a chance that you won't always get creamed at Scrabble!

The Happy Stepmother

Author: Rachelle Katz

Publisher: Harlequin

ISBN: 1426854897

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

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You found the love of your life, and you vowed to have, to hold and to stepmother. You always thought that in time you'd grow to be the perfect, loving family. So why does it seem that the harder you try, the more unappreciated you feel? As a stepmother, therapist and founder of the popular Web site stepsforstepmothers.com, Dr. Rachelle Katz knows all too well how challenging stepmotherhood can be. Based on thousands of in-depth interviews and the latest research, she's created a powerful program to help you: * Alleviate stress and take care of yourself * Bond with your new family * Set and enforce clear boundaries * Get the respect you deserve * Strengthen your relationship

Stepmonster

A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do

Author: Wednesday Martin

Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

ISBN: 9780547394312

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 336

View: 5158

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An honest and groundbreaking guide to understanding the complicated emotions that develop between stepmothers and children. When faced with often overwhelming challenges, what woman with stepchildren is unfamiliar with that “stepmonster” feeling? Half of all women in the United States will live with or marry a man with children. To guide women new to this role—and empower those who are struggling with it—Wednesday Martin draws upon her own experience as a stepmother. She's frank about the harrowing process of becoming a stepmother, she considers the myths and realities of being married to a man with children, and she counteracts the cultural notion that stepmothers are solely responsible for the problems that often develop. Along the way, she interviews other stepmothers and stepchildren and offers up fascinating insights from literature, anthropology, psychology, and evolutionary biology that explain the little-understood realities of this unique parent-child relationship and—in an unexpected twist—shows why the myth of the Wicked Stepmother is the single best tool for understanding who real stepmothers are and how they feel.

The New I Do

Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels

Author: Susan Pease Gadoua,Vicki Larson

Publisher: Seal Press

ISBN: 158005546X

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

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If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn’t look like the next and isn’t meant to last until death, there’s nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice and quizzes to help readers decide what works for them, The New I Do acts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century.

How to be a Happy Stepmum

Author: Lisa Doodson

Publisher: Random House

ISBN: 1407031201

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

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Stepfamilies are currently the fastest growing family type in the UK, with current estimates suggesting that 1 in 10 of all families are now stepfamilies. Yet despite the ever-growing number of stepfamilies, there remains a dearth of information and support for them. How to be a Happy Stepmum provides the first step in this support by guiding stepmothers through the pitfalls of adapting to stepfamily life; firstly by identifying what type of stepmother they are and then by addressing each of the recognised factors related to becoming a successful and happy stepmother. Based on sound research and written by an expert in the field, this book is essential reading for all stepmums.

It's Not Him, It's You

The Truth You May Not Want - but Need - to Hear

Author: Christie Hartman

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1440507007

Category: Self-Help

Page: 256

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From the Introduction: This book is research-based—and what the research shows is this: The real problem isn't dating, or men. The problem is that during the early stages of dating, women unknowingly make one or more fundamental mistakes that hinder their ability to date successfully and find the man of their dreams. This book will identify each of these Top 10 mistakes, and show you how to fix them. With Dr. Christie Hartman as your guide, you'll learn how to put this groundbreaking research to work for you. You'll learn that you, as a woman: Have the advantage over men in the dating world Should make the first move with men—not wait for them to act Can detect if a guy is truly interested in you, even before you go out with him Anyone can tell you to avoid sex on the first date, or to wear a skirt, or to flirt a lot. This book gives you what you really need: the research-based strategies you need to make dating work for you—and find the happiness you deserve!

Stepcoupling

Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today's Blended Family

Author: Susan Wisdom,Jennifer Green

Publisher: Harmony

ISBN: 0307421686

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 272

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Love may be sweeter the second time around, but once the bliss of a newfound relationship wears off a little, the reality of being part of a stepfamily sets in. If you are one of the millions of remarried Americans facing the challenge of blending two existing families into one cohesive whole, you are part of a stepcouple—and you know all too well how hard it can be to make your marriage work in sometimes tough terrain. Different parenting styles, finances, relationships with ex-spouses, legal matters, and even seemingly simple issues such as the kinds of chores assigned to children can chisel away at your union if you don’t always make your marriage a priority. Stepcoupling offers advice for stepcouples on how to do just that—all the while strengthening their blended family with a healthy marriage. Susan Wisdom and Jennifer Green provide tips and strategies on dealing with the issues remarried couples face, with a wealth of advice from real-life stepcouples, such as: * Learning to tailor your expectations of your spouse or children and remembering that no family is perfect * Knowing where your boundaries are, whether involving a hostile ex-spouse or a stepchild who demands too much attention * Realizing that traits like flexibility, tolerance, forgiveness, and openness are especially essential in a stepfamily situation * Making “us” time for talking, problem-solving, weekends away, and enjoying your marriage to constantly renew and strengthen your bond as a couple Let this invaluable remarriage manual help you make your stepcouple the foundation of a strong, happy, and successful stepfamily. From the Trade Paperback edition.

Stepmother

A Memoir

Author: Marianne Lile

Publisher: She Writes Press

ISBN: 1631520903

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 240

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Stepmother tells the story of Marianne Lile, who met a man, fell in love, got married, and arrived home from the honeymoon with a new label: stepmom. It was a role she initially embraced—but she quickly discovered she was alone in a difficult situation, with no handbook and no mentor. Here, Lile describes the complexities of the stepmom position, in a family and in the community, and shares her experience wearing a tag that is often misunderstood and weighed down by the numerous myths in society. Candid and poignant, Stepmother is a story of love and like, resentments and exasperation, resignation and hope—and a story, ultimately, of family.

How to Marry a Divorced Man

Author: Leslie Fram

Publisher: Harper Collins

ISBN: 9780061908064

Category: Self-Help

Page: 192

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You may not be his first wife -- but you want to be his last! More than half of all American women between the ages of 18 and 54 will date or marry a divorced man during their lifetime. Entering a relationship with any man is daunting. But entering one with a divorced man means navigating a host of new and complicated problems. Will remnants of his past -- his guilt, the X, their children, the financial and legal fallout -- wreak havoc on your sanity and finances and sabotage your quest for love? In this reassuring book, Leslie Fram combines fundamental wisdom, guerrilla tactics, and humor to inform and empower the millions of women who are dating divorcés -- and the many more who someday will.

The Smart Stepfamily

Seven Steps to a Healthy Family

Author: Ron L. Deal

Publisher: Baker Books

ISBN: 1441264205

Category: Religion

Page: 320

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Discover the Keys to a Healthy Stepfamily Leading stepfamily expert Ron L. Deal reveals the seven fundamental steps to blended family success and provides practical, realistic solutions to the issues you face as a stepfamily. Whether married or soon-to-be-married, you'll discover how to · Solve the everyday puzzles of stepparenting and stepchildren relationships · Communicate effectively with an ex-spouse · Handle stepfamily finances confidently · "Cook" your stepfamily slowly rather than expect an instant blend This revised and expanded edition has updated research and two new chapters with even more real-world advice on topics such as stepsibling relationships and later-life stepfamilies.

Dating the Divorced Man

Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If He's Right for You

Author: Christie Hartman

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780984826278

Category:

Page: 222

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His ex-wife, kids, and alimony... can you deal with his past? In today's world, separated and divorced men comprise nearly 40% of available men. However, these men differ from the typical single bachelors you're used to dating-they can come with many unexpected challenges, such as children, difficult ex-wives, substantial financial obligations, and unresolved grief, guilt, or anger. After 10 years of conducting research and coaching women dating separated and divorced men, psychologist and dating expert Dr. Christie Hartman has gathered every challenge these men can offer and put them into one easily-digested book. She will show you how to: Detect problems early on-and tackle them together Identify problems that "come with the territory" vs. those that are deal-breakers Recognize when his ex isn't over him... or when he isn't over her Avoid becoming a rebounding man's "transitional woman" Evaluate whether marriage to a divorced man is the right choice for you Filled with lots of insight and real-life examples, Dating the Divorced Man gives you the tools you need to decide if you can deal with the issues and find long-term happiness-or if it's time to say goodbye.

Love Him, Love His Kids

The Stepmother's Guide to Surviving and Thriving in a Blended Family

Author: Stan Wenck,Connie J. Hansen

Publisher: Simon and Schuster

ISBN: 1440513856

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

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He loves her. She loves him. But his kids hate her. Or bait her. Or ignore her altogether. She's the stepmother, and sometimes she feels as if she's never played a more thankless role. It doesn't have to be that way. With this book, the stepmother will find the advice she needs to win over even the most resistant children. This honest, practical guide written by a therapist and stepmother who's been there shows stepmothers the best ways to handle the most challenging situations, including how to: Get off on the right foot from "hello" Build a relationship with each child Share Daddy with his children Define boundaries as a couple Negotiate issues with Dad as well as the kids Deal with their "real" mom Survive holidays, birthdays, and school vacations Create family rituals With this book, millions of stepmothers find the strategies they need to safeguard their new marriage and establish a happy, peaceful new blended family.