Surviving Step-Families

Author: Michael Carr-Gregg

Publisher: Penguin UK

ISBN: 0857963066

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 224

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An essential handbook for any step-parent or anyone considering joining the ranks of the fastest-growing family group in Australia. Becoming a step-parent is one of the toughest journeys anyone could ever take, but the rewards can be immeasurable. In this insightful and reassuring book, Australia's leading parenting expert Michael Carr-Greg offers practical advice on the following: - the typical stages of step-family transition - the particular challenges of the first two years - how to manage conflict and build lasting relationships - dealing with the ex - the great 'no-nos' of step-parenting - the essential lessons every step-parent needs to learn Surviving Step-Families is an invaluable resource that will help to give your new family the greatest chance of success.

Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships

What Works and What Doesn't

Author: Patricia L. Papernow

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1136701559

Category: FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS

Page: 248

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Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships draws on current research, a wide variety of clinical modalities, and thirty years of clinical work with stepfamily members to describe the special challenges stepfamilies face. The book presents the concept of "stepfamily architecture" and the five challenges it creates, and delineates three different levels of strategies—psychoeducation, building interpersonal skills, and intrapsychic work—for meeting those challenges in dozens of different settings. The model is designed to be useful both to stepfamily members themselves and to a wide variety of practitioners, from a highly trained clinician who needs to know how and when to work on all three levels, to a school counselor or clergy person who may work on the first two levels but refer out for level three. It will also be useful to educators, judges, mediators, lawyers and medical personnel who will practice on the first level, but need to understand the other two to guide their work.

Becoming A Stepfamily

Patterns of Development in Remarried Families

Author: Patricia L. Papernow

Publisher: CRC Press

ISBN: 1317758153

Category: Psychology

Page: 448

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What determines whether stepfamilies remain together? What helps stepfamilies overcomes the difficulties of remarriage and become mutually supportive family units? How can mental health professionals better support this development? This book brings both clarity and depth to the unique and complex dynamics of remarried families. Patricia Papernow draws on interviews with over 100 stepfamily members, up-to-date research, a solid theoretical framework, and an empathic clinical sensibility to present an insightful model of stepfamily development, the Stepfamily Cycle. This details account of the sages of forming a lasting, cohesive group is richly illustrated by stepfamily members' own stories. Becoming a Stepfamily describes the developmental challenges involved in building nourishing, reliable relationships between stepparents and stepchildren, in the newly married couple, and between different family groups who must learn to live together in a remarried family. Papernow discusses the factors that influence the pace and ease of development, and she provides four full length case studies illustrating the varied paths through the stepfamily cycle to the successful remarried life. The author offers therapists, clergy, school personnel, and others involved with stepfamilies a range of effective interventions, including preventive, educational, and clinical approaches. She provides practical guidance for helping family members deal constructively with the differing attachments of children to their biological parents and stepparents, assisting stepparents as they cope with feeling excluded from the powerful biological parent-child bond, and guiding biological parents torn between their spouse's need for intimacy and privacy and their children's needs for support and attention.

Stepfamilies

Love, Marriage, and Parenting in the First Decade

Author: James H. Bray,John Kelly

Publisher: Broadway Books

ISBN: 0307803635

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 288

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Based on a landmark longitudinal study, the nation's leading expert on stepfamilies reveals his breakthrough findings and offers the first detailed guide to easing the conflicts of stepfamily life and healing the scars of divorce. There are more than twenty million stepfamilies in America. For most of them, the simple, daily issues that challenge every family are even more anxiety-provoking. After conducting a comprehensive nine-year-long study funded by the National Institutes of Health, Dr. James H. Bray has written an invaluable book that explains why over half of all stepfamilies fail and reveals the strategies that help the others succeed. A stepfamily is assaulted on all sides by difficult and often divisive questions. How much control should a stepparent have over a stepchild? How much authority should a nonresidential parent exert over a child? How should a difficult former spouse be handled? How does an "ours" baby change the emotional dynamic in a stepfamily? Why is there a lack of "honeymoon effect" during the first years of stepfamily life? The purpose of Stepfamilies is to answer all the important questions of stepfamily life--to fill in the knowledge gaps that undermine so many stepfamilies today and, crucially, to learn the effect of stepfamily life on children. Based on one of the largest and longest studies of stepfamily life ever conducted, Stepfamilies interweaves the stories of real families to illustrate such study findings as how: a stepfamily has its own natural life cycle a stepfamily takes several years to develop into a family unit a stepfamily is at greatest risk during the first two years a stepfamily ultimately coalesces into one of three forms a stepfamily must solve four basic tasks in order to succeed a stepfamily can help heal the scars of divorce Filled with emotional, gripping stories, Bray's findings pinpoint the three major transitions in stepfamily life and identify the riskiest issues that can throw a family into crisis. Bray is the first to identify the several distinct forms that stepfamilies take and to explore which types of stepfamilies are more vulnerable than others and why. He also describes the natural life cycle of stepfamilies and basic tasks all stepfamilies must undertake to succeed. With a wealth of insight into the positive effects of remarriage, Bray shows how a loving, well-functioning stepfamily can lessen the trauma of divorce and restore a child's and family's sense of security. Most stepparents remarry with the highest hopes and new resolutions for a better life. Never before have their unique needs been addressed in depth. Through insightful case studies and practical advice, Stepfamilies reveals how a strong, stable stepfamily is as capable as a nuclear family of nurturing healthy development, of imbuing values, of setting limits and boundaries, and of providing a structure in which rules for living a moral and productive life are transmitted, tested, rebelled against, and ultimately affirmed. Bray's positive message and fascinating findings--many of which defy intuition--will put stepfamilies on the road to lifelong harmony.

Stepmotherhood

How to Survive Without Feeling Frustrated, Left Out, or Wicked, Revised Edition

Author: Cherie Burns

Publisher: Harmony

ISBN: 0307774589

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 272

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If you’re one of the more than 15 million stepmothers in the country, you know the particular trials—and joys—of stepfamily dynamics today. You wonder if you’re doing the right thing and, as a stepmother, many of your specific questions are unique. In this second edition of Stepmotherhood: How to Survive Without Feeling Frustrated, Left Out, or Wicked, journalist and stepmother Cherie Burns brings together countless insights and sound advice, based on the latest research and interviews with experts in the field (including dozens of other stepmoms), to answer questions such as: • How do you manage discipline when parents and stepparents disagree? • How can you help stepsiblings get along? • How do you handle birthdays, holidays, and weddings? • What’s the best way to get along with your stepchild’s mother? • When should you seek a therapist’s help? Burns’s wise and empathetic suggestions go beyond struggle, stigma, and compromise, showing how sensitive, informed stepmothers can take charge—and pride—in their role, becoming more effective and fulfilled. From the Trade Paperback edition.

Women and Stepfamilies

Voices of Anger and Love

Author: Nan Maglin,Nancy Schniedewind

Publisher: Temple University Press

ISBN: 1439901279

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 362

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"This text richly captures people making use of and growing with the intricacies of bi-nuclear families." --Journal of Marital and Family Therapy This is the first book to describe the unique and varied experiences and perspectives of women in stepfamilies as told by the women themselves. Through letters, journal entries, poetry, fiction, personal narratives, interviews, and analytic essays, this anthology brings a feminist perspective to the experience of millions of women now involved in stepfamilies. "Women and Stepfamilies confronts these myths head-on. Through political theory, fiction and poetry, a wide range of contributors look at living arrangements that are considered atypical. Particularly moving is the fact that the book includes a variety of perspectives: that of stepmother, stepgrandmother, stepsister and stepdaughter . [The book] helps, both in a personal sense and in terms of analyzing family norms. As the first book to focus on the unique, varied perspectives of women, told in their own words, it goes a long way toward addressing the myriad issues raised when people come together out of love and try to forge cohesive living units out of disparate, non-biologically related parts. Equally important, the editors deserve kudos for the inclusivity of the volume. It is multinational, multiclass and reflects the perspectives of both lesbian and heterosexual stepmothers and stepdaughters.... I read it with glee, putting it down only to answer a call, or break up a fight between siblings not of my loins." --Eleanor J. Bader, New Directions for Women

Families and how to Survive Them

Author: A. C. Robin Skynner,John Cleese

Publisher: Oxford University Press, USA

ISBN: 9780195204667

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

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Written in an unconventional dialogue form, this book explores the inner workings of the modern family, and the interactions between couples and their children.

I Do, Part 2

Author: Karen Buscemi

Publisher: NorlightsPress

ISBN: 1935254367

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 158

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How do you and your ex raise happy kids? You learn how to be one big happy family.When you share custody of children, divorce can be a short-term tension headache, or a lifelong migraine. If you don't want to blow all your money on pills, the two of you need to get along.I Do, Part 2 is a funny, honest trounce through life post-divorce, helping people who produced a child together, then split, learn to navigate their complicated new lives.

When Difficult Relatives Happen to Good People

Surviving Your Family and Keeping Your Sanity

Author: Leonard Felder

Publisher: Rodale

ISBN: 9781594862274

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

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The co-author of Making Peace with Your Parents explains how to cope with diificult relatives--from critical in-laws to troublemaking siblings and children--providing straightforward advice on how to counter the toxic influence of such individuals, alleviate tense family disagreements, and transform get-togethers into occasions for sharing. Reprint. 20,000 first printing.

Stepfamily Therapy

A 10-step Clinical Approach

Author: Scott Browning,Elise Artelt

Publisher: Amer Psychological Assn

ISBN: 9781433810091

Category: Psychology

Page: 291

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Over the last 30 years, systemic approaches to family therapy have been largely successful at treating even the most intractable problems in family functioning. However, stepfamilies have long proven a particular challenge for family therapists. Recent research has confirmed that, given their unique dynamics, stepfamilies are vulnerable in a way that is distinct from typical "first-families," leaving them often resistant to traditional family therapy techniques. In this book, Scott Browning and Elise Artelt integrate clinically validated interventions within an original theoretical framework for stepfamily therapy. They envision the stepfamily as comprised of subsystems, a series of overlapping relationships between individuals. This key insight enables clinicians to divide the stepfamily into more manageable units and plan treatment accordingly. The authors guide readers through their 10-step model, emphasizing techniques that range from the conceptual [MDASH] determining the unique structure of the stepfamily to help guide treatment [MDASH] to more concrete interventions, from identifying and encouraging empathy, to identifying and challenging unhelpful beliefs, and assisting in work with co-parents. The importance of extended family members is stressed, as is the necessity of understanding and valuing racial, ethnic, and sexual diversity within stepfamilies. The ultimate goal is positive communication between family members, with subsystems that are fully integrated into a functioning and happy stepfamily. As the first full, length investigation of clinical treatment with this important but underserved population, Stepfamily Therapy is a landmark publication in the field.

Stepfamilies

Surviving and Thriving in a New Family

Author: Suzie Hayman

Publisher: N.A

ISBN: 9780743276016

Category: Stepfamilies

Page: 249

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One in three people today in the UK are involved in some sort of stepfamily. The traditional image of a couple who marry, have 2.4 children and stay together forever is now far from typical. Families are increasingly diverse and by 2010 the vast majority will consist of adults living in a married or unmarried relationship with children living with them or visiting, who may or may not be related to both those adults. Remarkably, it has been estimated that around 72 different forms of stepfamily exist. Suzie Hayman, a Relate-trained counsellor and a leading expert on stepfamilies, knows that many of the difficulties stepfamilies face are common to all families. Using real life examples, she helps the reader through such problems and suggests a variety of exercises and techniques to help family members understand what is happening, and so bring the new family together. STEPFAMILIES is the definitive guide for parents, children and members of extended families who may each need support in new and challenging roles.

The Smart Stepfamily

Seven Steps to a Healthy Family

Author: Ron L. Deal

Publisher: Baker Books

ISBN: 1441264205

Category: Religion

Page: 320

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Discover the Keys to a Healthy Stepfamily Leading stepfamily expert Ron L. Deal reveals the seven fundamental steps to blended family success and provides practical, realistic solutions to the issues you face as a stepfamily. Whether married or soon-to-be-married, you'll discover how to · Solve the everyday puzzles of stepparenting and stepchildren relationships · Communicate effectively with an ex-spouse · Handle stepfamily finances confidently · "Cook" your stepfamily slowly rather than expect an instant blend This revised and expanded edition has updated research and two new chapters with even more real-world advice on topics such as stepsibling relationships and later-life stepfamilies.

The Modern Family Survival Guide

Author: Nigel Latta

Publisher: Random House Australia

ISBN: 1742759769

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 304

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A handbook for stepparents, separated parents, grandparents raising grandchildren, and everyone in between. The shape of the modern family has changed hugely in the last twenty years. Once upon a time mum, dad, and a three or four kids used to be the norm, but that type of family is almost an anomaly now. Stepfamilies, separated families, single parents, grandparents raising their children's children,bitter family court battles, and complicated access arrangements. it's a brave new world full of complicated family arrangements and conundrums. The Modern Family Survival Guide provides pragmatic and common sense answers to the myriad complex questions and dilemmas which arise from living in these brave new social times. Utilizing both the best current research about stepfamilies and over two decades of clinical experience, this book will traverse the many and varied issues of modern family life.

Babygate

How to Survive Pregnancy and Parenting in the Workplace

Author: Dina Bakst,Phoebe Taubman,Elizabeth Gedmark

Publisher: The Feminist Press at CUNY

ISBN: 1558618627

Category: Health & Fitness

Page: 320

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Moms-to-be get tons of advice on strollers, sleep training, and post-baby workouts. What they don't get is straight talk about navigating the workplace during pregnancy and new parenthood - factors that put many women's jobs in jeopardy. That's why Babygate is essential: the first and only guide to supply parents with the tools they need to keep their jobs. Babygate breaks down the laws on topics across the parenthood spectrum in clear, conversational language, and includes a state-by-state guide so readers know exactly how they're protected (or not) in their hometowns. Best of all, Babygate includes a road map for confronting family-responsibilities discrimination, and a concrete plan for creating a more family-friendly nation. In Babygate, three legal experts share practical tips, real-life stories from moms and dads, and key legal information to spotlight the protections expecting and new parents have (and don't have) in the workplace. This step-by-step guide covers everything from morning sickness to maternity leave to confronting discrimination on the job. Includes quizzes, charts, checklists, sample letters to employers, and a comprehensive breakdown of individual state laws on pregnancy, parenthood, and the workplace.

The Smart Stepfamily Participant's Guide

An 8-Session Guide to a Healthy Stepfamily

Author: Ron L. Deal

Publisher: Baker Books

ISBN: 1441264213

Category: Religion

Page: 112

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Practical Solutions to the Issues Stepfamilies Face The Smart Stepfamily Participant's Guide provides discussion questions to use before and after watching the DVD, space to take notes, and bonus reading material. Includes leader instructions and guidelines for facilitating effective groups.

Developing Healthy Stepfamilies

Twenty Families Tell Their Stories

Author: Patricia Kelley,Terry S Trepper

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1317823257

Category: Medical

Page: 104

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View the inner workings of healthy stepfamilies through the stories of twenty families as they discuss how their households operate. This enlightening book takes a deeper look at what adults and children in stepfamilies say about such issues as discipline, money, family roles and relationships with ex-spouses, and the development of new traditions and rituals. Incorporating actual words of family members, Developing Healthy Stepfamilies shows many ways in which stepfamilies function well through adapting new and different “rules” to fit their circumstances. The book concentrates on positive rather than negative aspects of stepfamily life to help dim the image of stepfamilies as problematic and also to instill hope in would-be stepfamilies by normalizing their differences from biologically based families. Written with the intention of disseminating information and increasing understanding about stepfamily functioning, this book is useful for stepfamilies, their friends and relatives, and professionals such as teachers, clergy, physicians, and counselors. Developing Healthy Stepfamilies draws a colorful picture of the creativity and flexibility such families have brought to their lives and relationships. Emphasizing what works in stepfamilies instead of what does not, the book illustrates the process of integrating a stepfamily, the value of humor and patience, and the richness that can unfold for all members of the family. The author, a family therapist and educator, has drawn together information direct from stepfamily members themselves, providing readers with first-hand knowledge of the daily workings of this fast growing family form. A showcase of stepfamilies that are functioning well, Developing Healthy Stepfamilies helps show would-be stepfamilies that “it can be done.” This is not a book of instructions; it illuminates the many ways in which stepfamilies can and do function. Some of the topics covered in the book include: definitions of a stepfamily a historical review demographics suggestions for new stepfamilies from established ones genograms of the families participating in the study As a group, stepfamilies are different from biologically based families in form and function. These differences are important for the families, and for those working with them, to recognize and accept as normal. Although intended to be an informative text for professionals and students in fields such as counseling and social work, this book also serves as a source of hope and encouragement for stepfamilies and prospective stepfamilies themselves.

No One's the Bitch

A Ten-Step Plan for the Mother and Stepmother Relationship

Author: Jennifer Newcomb Marine,Carol Marine

Publisher: Rowman & Littlefield

ISBN: 0762755903

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 256

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One of three Americans is today a stepparent, a stepchild, or a stepsibling. That means there are lots of stepmothers and ex-wives out there wrestling with resentment, jealousy, anxiety, anger, and despair over their relationship with the “other woman” in their life. That's where stepmother/ex-wife team extraordinaire Jennifer Newcomb Marine and Carol Marine step in. No One's the Bitch is their straight-talking, handholding walk through what is typically a very lonely minefield. Whether women just want to create a neutral, “business” partnership or actually, gulp, to become friends, this book shows them how to reach their goal through ten powerful steps, with chapter titles such as “Own Your Own Crap,” “Collaborate,” and “Communicate.” The authors also recount their own journey, providing ample hope and reassurance to all women struggling to keep a blended family together.

Therapy with Stepfamilies

Author: Emily B. Visher,John S. Visher

Publisher: Routledge

ISBN: 1135063281

Category: Psychology

Page: 208

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First published in 1996. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.

Parenting For Dummies

Author: Sandra Hardin Gookin,Dan Gookin

Publisher: John Wiley & Sons

ISBN: 1118069730

Category: Family & Relationships

Page: 408

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We humans are pretty clever. We’ve mastered fire, invented the wheel, calculated the age of the Universe, sent people to the Moon, built machines that think, and cracked the genome. So you’d think that with all our smarts, somebody would’ve come up with a surefire formula for raising kids. Maybe that’s because every child, like every parent, is an individual, and no two parent-child relationships are ever the same. So, you can give up any notions of being a perfect parent. But, you can learn to keep the big mistakes to a minimum and make the parenting enterprise easier and more rewarding for your children and you. Which is where this book comes in. Whether you’re child is a newborn, a teen, or somewhere in-between, Parenting For Dummies gives you the scoop on parenting basics. From dealing with a crying baby and potty training, to building self-esteem and talking with them about sex, it offers a gold mine of up-to-date advice and guidance on how to: Learn to communicate with your kids Develop a good relationship with your kids Keep your kids safe and healthy Help your kids grow up to be good people Keep your cool and control their behavior Discipline constructively and with a minimum of stress Build self-esteem in your children Avoid committing the parenting sins your parents taught you Experts Sandy and Dan Gookin—she’s the parenting expert for Parents Magazine and Working Mother Magazine and he’s a father of four—avoid the psychological hype and medical terminology and give you the straight poop on all aspects of child-rearing, including: Speaking and listening to kids The importance of being consistent Keeping a sense of humor Dealing with babies Childhood growth and development Health and nutrition Kids’ changing physical needs Developing a good person Written by parents for parents, Parenting For Dummies gives you the know-how and skills you need to be the parent of healthy, happy kids.